What is Mental health and how does it affect my relationships?

Contrary to what most people think, mental health is far much more than just the absence of mental disorders. Your mental health is your ability to realize, acknowledge and manage your abilities, feelings, thoughts and behaviors in a way that increases your productivity and enables you to live in harmony with yourself and with others. 

You can visit us at Oasis to know and understand your mental health status.

Everyone has some risk of developing a mental health problem, no matter your age, gender, ethnicity or race. The people around you and the kind of relationships you have with them play a major role in your mental wellbeing. In addition, your mental health affects how you interact and develop relationships with others.

The Importance of Mental Health in My relationships

 If your relationship is a safe mental health space, you will thrive, glow and feel safe with the person you are with.

This is how a mental health safe relationship feels like:

  • You trust and respect each other
  • Both people protect and value the relationship, and make it a priority
  • you listen to each other and compromise when necessary
  • Both people are responsible for their own needs, as well as the relationship
  • Freedom to speak openly, and share your thoughts and feelings
  • You are able to set boundaries for the relationship
  • Arguments and disagreements do not lead to threats or violence
  • There is no physical, verbal, or emotional abuse

HOW A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP FEELS LIKE

Lack of support

Healthy relationships are based on a mutual desire to see the other succeed in all areas of life. However, when things turn toxic, every achievement becomes a competition.

Toxic communication

Instead of treating each other with kindness, most of your conversations are filled with sarcasm, criticism, or overt hostility. Similarly, you may even start avoiding talking to each other or avoid talking about certain topics.

Jealousy

You or your partner often find it hard to think or feel positively about each other’s success.

Controlling behaviors

Questioning where you are all the time or becoming overly upset when you don’t immediately answer texts are signs which can contribute to toxicity in a relationship. In addition, this could also be a sign of abuse. Click here to read about abuse in relationships.

Resentment

This involves holding grudges which in turn leads to feelings of hatred or disgust towards each other.

Dishonesty

You find yourself constantly making up lies about what you are up to or who you meet up with to avoid explaining yourself or spending time with your partner.

Patterns of disrespect

You sometimes feel that you are not getting the kind of respect you deserve from your partner.

Constant worry and stress

You almost always have something to worry about when you think about your partner.

This ongoing stress can take a toll on your physical and emotional health.

Constantly sacrificing the things, you need

You find yourself almost always agreeing with what your partner wants and prioritizing their needs even when you don’t feel like. For instance,  You deny yourself the things that you need to please your partner and in turn you feel lost and sad within.

Withdrawing from other relationships

You’ve stopped spending time with friends and family, either to avoid conflict with your partner or to get around having to explain what’s happening in your relationship.

As a result, you might find your free time is wrapped up in dealing with your partner.

Hoping for change

sometimes you stay in the relationship because you see the other person’s potential or think that if you just change yourself and your actions, they’ll change as well. in other wards, You never really feel a state of satisfaction, you are often feeling hopeful that things will change.

If you feel that your relationship is toxic and you really want to make things better, come to Oasis with your sweetheart , your friend, or your relative. We offer couple therapy and counselling. You’ll meet our highly qualified mental health workers, who’ll help you fix this.